Over the break I have had a couple of discussions with my now 20 year old children about boundaries and their seemingly lack of setting any (to this parent's eyes). I wonder how much of this is my responsibility? Was I a poor example? If I am honest - I think I too struggled with setting boundaries. I am much better now because I am conscious of the discussion. How does self sacrifice fit in? It is all a bit unsettling. I do think that love requires self sacrifice. But, the commitment to the other and from the other has to be part of the equation. Can you give too much? What about self care?